As a mother of twins, then 3 under 2, and then, later, 4 under 4, I understand how monumental the birth of each child is.

It can be beautiful.

It can be difficult.

It can be both, confusingly intertwined.

And I know, after working with families around the world, how hard it can be when you’re exhaustedly going through the motions, but just wondering where the spark of motherhood is -- and when you’re supposed to take a shower.

So here’s what I want you to know: it doesn’t have to be that way.